I found the below article while surfing the Net and loved it. In my life I have struggled over making friends with my “feminine side,” often feeling inferior (rather, conditioned to feel inferior) for being born a woman, often suppressing the feminine in favor of Mars. I chose career fields that were male dominated for most of my life, largely to prove to myself (and others) than women were worthy. In my youth I viewed the comment, “You’re not like other women, you’re one of the guys” as the highest form of praise. Now, I see the comment and my perception of it for what it was/is: small mindedness and an acceptance of limitation and separation. Over the past decade I have worked hard to heal myself, indeed, to deconstruct and free myself from the negative socio-cultural conditioning that hung like a millstone around my neck. In the past three years, I have changed careers entirely, shed associations and ideas that no longer resonate with me, embraced solitude as means to deeply examine and reset/rebuild my mental/emotional/physical Self, and, now, emerge delighted to engage with the world as a more compassionate and whole person. And yet I am still a work in progress, but as a Being who is empowered by her journey.
Love one another. Love yourself. All of us, male, female, or transgender, are the same. All of us are Universe, Source, Essence.
Enjoy this beautiful piece, courtesy of Mystic Mamma!
“When we heal ourselves, others are healed. When we nurture our dreams, we give birth to the dreams of humankind. When we walk as loving aspects of the Earth Mother, we become the fertile, life-giving Mothers of the Creative Force. When we honor our bodies, our health, and our emotional needs, we make space for our dreams to come into being. When we speak the truth from our healed hearts, we allow life abundant to continue on our Mother Planet.”
“As women, we are continually writing the history of the Legacy of Women. We cannot point a finger at men or each other without owning the pain of past generations who forgot how to give or teach human compassion. Our own family trees are filled with teaching situations and with tragic examples that may have blinded our own Ancestors to the values of truth as it is found in love. Now, the destiny of wholeness of the human race falls to the Sisterhood because all things are born of woman.”
“When each woman honors her Self, more raw, creative energy is available to be used by the whole to effect changes in the way humankind reacts to life. When women are no longer lost, asking others to tell them what they should do or how they should live, there will be great changes in our world. This is not to say that the friendships and bonds of women are not to be used; on the contrary, the support of other women who have walked the same path is paramount. This kind of support is based on truth and delivered with caring-without projections or judging another. That kind of support is healthy and productive, when other women create a safe place in which to share personal thoughts and offer alternatives in a respectful way. The sisterhood always supports every woman who is willing to surmount her own challenges in order to grow.”
“The Legacy of Woman does not have to include the former hurts that have set woman against woman, women against men, or caused women to destroy themselves through sabotage….there is no need to get involved with the high drama and pettiness that has kept us from achieving human harmony when we are busy working on becoming our personal visions.”
“Self-esteem is reclaimed when the feminine principle of nurturing the Self is practiced, instead of expecting our sense of wholeness to come from our relationship to another person. When we care enough for ourselves to take the time we need to give to the Self, we will feel complete.”
“In every instance, no matter how the situation presents itself, each individual is responsible for seeing her or his own hurt and for finding a way to heal it without making the other person responsible for that pain. This is the way of the feminine nurturing principle: going within, finding the problem, and remedying it through nurturing the self.”
~Jami Sams from her book The Thirteen Original Clan Mothers